Does your physical symptom have something to gain by sticking around?
Jul 23, 2021Does your physical symptom have something to gain by sticking around?
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When we are children and we get caught doing something bad, we get punished, and the next day it’s over. We learn that punishment ends the problem. As adults, we’ve developed a conscience with a sense of right and wrong and we know that we have the final say in judgment when it comes to our own choices and are in charge of handling the praising or punishing for ourselves. More often, we neglect doing what we think is right or praising ourselves when we do make the right choices and since nobody else punishes us, we punish ourselves in order to fit into our world view (how we look at the world, our place in it, why things happen the way they do, what our purpose is, how we fit in, our beliefs, values, and attitudes) Often times this manifests itself as guilt. The more that is suppressed and/or repressed, the heavier the toll on your being.
This internalization can wreak havoc on the mind and body in varying degrees causing anxiety, depression, nervousness, sadness, hyper vigilance, avoidance, unanimous, fears, phobias, etc. We tend to talk more about these being a symptom of deeper-rooted origin, suppression, or repression, and rarely talk about how a physical symptom can be linked to a deeper-rooted origin of suppression and repression alike. Physical symptoms such as warts, rashes, hypersensitivity to hearing, seeing, tasting, or loss of hearing, seeing, tasting, skin conditions, joint pain, chronic pain, and many more have all been linked to unresolved or faulty pattern matches from people or situations from the past and emotions that have been left unprocessed.
“The feeling that cannot find its expression in tears will cause the other organs to weep.”
And because we learned from a young age that punishment solves a problem, sometimes the subconscious mind uses a symptom to solve a problem. And let me just state, the presenting symptom is not always motivated by punishment to solve a problem. I’ve seen other symptoms motivated by protection (keeping someone safe from someone or something), or the client having something to gain (attention, release of responsibility, rest, gifts, etc) by having the symptom.
You may have noticed circumstances for symptoms arising that are ‘unexplained’ by the doctors and are difficult to treat because results examined come back as normal. It can be said that such unexplained symptoms can correlate with a deeper unresolved issue that may have gone suppressed for a good while and as a result, a physical symptom can be manifested in representation of the emotional residue still stored in the body from old traumas. It is also said that once the emotional suppression is alleviated, so too are the symptoms.
I like to say that every dull pain, headache, wart, rash, or sensitivity has something to tell us about its role in our lives. Whether it sprung up out of nowhere or has lasted for as long as you can remember… I believe that our mind and body work together to bring light to areas we consciously try to hide to the best it can so that we can resolve what we need to in order to heal. My opinion of course, however some may agree that this perspective may also be ring true for them as well.
I believe that in order to feel better and live a happier life, it’s important that we not forget about where we come from and what we’ve been through coming into this world. I can personally say that I tired myself, to forget a lot of areas of my childhood because I refused to allow it to dictate my life as an adult.
What I came to learn however, was that I couldn’t just ignore the little girl that went through so much. I couldn’t ignore the anger, the resentment, or the sadness that lay dormant but still loud enough to steal me from the happiness within a better life I created for myself as an adult. I didn’t deserve to be carrying it any longer and those that show me love, acceptance, and see me should not bare what isn’t theirs the bare.
You can create a new life for yourself, every day if you choose to. But don’t forget about the little you that didn’t have a choice not so long ago. Or maybe too long ago. It is up to us, as adults, to see to it that the parts of us that may have been neglected, rejected, or disowned get chance to speak, maybe for the first time. A chance to be seen, maybe for the first time. An opportunity to be embraced lovingly, for the first time. And maybe for the first time, shown that they are finally safe… forever protected within your arms now.
I truly believe that our most transformational healing begins where we didn’t have a choice. With all of the wisdom, knowledge and understanding that we possess now as adults, we have greater abilities to heal ourselves from within by meeting ourselves where the true pain began.
You get to choose now. You hold that power now. Sayge is sending a glimmer of your light on your way back to the preciousness that is you, if you so choose to.
